Clear Intentions and Difficult Changes for My Best Result
Margaret writes:
Back in 2008, I went through a mini “mid-life crisis” where I wanted to lose weight and work out so as to improve my overall physical, emotional and mental health. I also wanted to gain back much of my independent spirit I’d seemed to have lost years earlier when I first married and year by year, gave up and gave in to my husband who controlled the bills/finances, planning vacations, even when/where we moved, what home, furnishings, etc., we purchased.
Through the years of being a wife/helpmate, mom, etc., I was loosing more and more of myself, always giving to my husband and sons and others.
As I continued my healthy regime, I became happier and the more this developed for me, the more my husband withdrew. One of my dreams was to move to California and pursue a new career. My thinking was that I’d devoted my entire married life to his career pursuits, so perhaps he would be open to following me for once. This couldn’t have been further from the truth. He was adamant about how his work prevented him from leaving. I indicated that there might come a time when I felt the need to leave and therefore I would follow my own heart/dreams.
This was the beginning of my “putting out into the Universe,” my desire to be independent, happy and free. Although I have to add that I NEVER intended for my marriage to end, it was time for some adjustments. I loved my husband and wanted him in my life.
Believing that I needed to prove to I could go on a solo vacation, I planned a trip and made it happen. I spent a peaceful, blissful, solitary time by myself in another state, driving all over, taking in the sights, journaling, photographing and even driving over to the next state to meet a childhood friend, spending a few days with her. This was something I never thought I could do on my own, so I was quite proud of myself for following through. For my husband, however, it became yet, another reason to pull a little further away.
From here on out, things became more strained but subtly. He decided to take his own “solo” vacations, work out more often, and change his clothing style. Later we even had separate bedrooms.
With all of the growing signs, etc., I knew we needed professional help so I told him if we were to save our marriage, we needed to get counseling. He agreed to the counseling so I was encouraged. We had seen counselors before with a good rate of success, but this time was different. We would have a great session and leave the office only for things to go back to the way they’d been with his coming home later and later, not checking in, etc. After about eight months of sessions, our counselor moved away and we never tried to find another.
All of the positive things I’d done for myself began to fade away as my husband’s appearance improved and his behavior began to shift in a positive, confident direction. He decided to take another of his solo vacations to another state. He was way too eager to leave on this particular trip, telling me he was going to get up very early in the morning to get a good start. Intuitively, I’d known for some time that he was having an affair, but I kept denying these feelings. I begged him to tell me if he was meeting someone out there, or taking someone with him but he denied it all.
I had tried everything in my power to honor our marriage, but I felt I was finally owed the truth so I hired a private investigator. It was easy work because on this trip and only on this particular trip he shared all his contact information…the location of the cabins, the phone number, etc. I truly think it was the Universe trying to help me out.
I was prepared to do whatever it took to hold our marriage together, but the information that was provided by the investigator was irrefutable, leaving no other choice but to end this union once and for all.
I truly believe that my wish to be happy, independent and free was answered succinctly, leaving me no other alternative. It was very tough, but now all is clear to set my own course for a happy and fulfilling life. Like a sunrise, each day presents me with a beautiful potential.
Margaret
How Solutions Sometimes Manifest
Once Margaret became more focused on her intention, it appears that all fell into place and a solution was presented. In this story, a considerable amount of pain was experienced, but is very possible that everyone is happier for the outcome. Certainly that is the case for Margaret.
Once manifesting begins, our thoughts will create the most direct path to the goal that is envisioned. Sometimes it becomes the loss of a job so that the better opportunity can appear or as in this case, the end of a toxic relationship. No one is advocating the break up of marriages here, but in this instance there was no other way forward.
What appears to be ‘bad’ news is sometimes not what it seems, but instead, the event that leads us from our comfort or secure place to a place of our best and highest good.
Ken
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